I’m Married To A Narcissist Physical, Psychological, Financial, Emotional Spiritual Trauma and Abuse

Incident Summary By:

Kenyatta Foy

To Whom This May Concern!

Kenneth Foy Controls and Micromanage everything I do and say, when and how I can rest or relax, how I should feel, how I think, how I dress, what I eat, where I go, who I talk to, how I wear my hair, if and when I can study and pray, my social media time etc.

Kenneth shuts down (switches and charges) bank accounts, phone accounts, websites, emails and passwords constantly whenever he gets angry, frustrated or upset with me, or if I’m not sexual with him, abruptly interfering with our businesses and livelihoods. He also has hidden (secret bank accounts).

While he holds me accountable for continuing to work for free and build our businesses, in his words because he pays all of the bills, but when we first met I would financially support, aid and provide for him, because he was struggling in every area of his life and careers. Helping him and the church has depleted all of my financial resources.

I’m Married To A Narcissist

As soon as my money ran out & I quit my jobs transferring careers and started working with him consolidating!

Him and his family would allude that I’m on government assistance and from the hood (poor, broke and hungry), without saying they all even treat me that way. They frown their faces and look down on me. He has taught them how to treat me, with (the slighting), lack of empathy, curtesy,  honor, dignity, respect or love.

When my husband met me 3 1/2 years ago, I was in possession of my own cosmetology business, consulting company, home, money  (bank accounts) and car.

I’m now in debt and my car is wrecked up, and I’m barely making it. Kenneth doesn’t allow me to work on and publish my content without his presence, approval and consent.  If and when I market, advertise, promote or publish podcasts, videos, pictures etc, on any of our platforms that I built for profit, and he’s not on them he stop talking to me (ignores me) or creates an argument saying that this is our business if I’m not in it why are you putting it out there!

Then he goes on to say that he’s going to podcast as well.

Now “mind you” whenever he podcasts, I’m the one who has to edit, advertise, market and publish the podcast.

He’s not technically inclined in this manner.  I do (perform) all of the cooking for our household, all the laundry, all the cleaning by myself. And run the businesses, parent our blended family (Children) and have expectations from him to complete my wifely duties (have sex with him) every single night, no matter what.

I lost my employment with

Uber driving & Eats, Amazon Influencer Marketing and Facebook Content Creation due to my husband and his ex-wife’s family and their jealousy and competition with my jobs and  articles of operations. He logged into my uber account multiple times,  (saying it was a mistake) the company detected him logging in from his device ultimately they lock my account permanently. Uber said “that we were sharing employment which is forbidden 🚫” if and whenever I blog or post on my Amazon Influencers account he would become passive aggressively hostile and jealous about it.

On many occasions I podcast without Kenneth and immediately he would think that I’m speaking negatively about him in some of my previous posts.

If I tell him “he’s hurting me” in any shape, form or fashion he would say get over it or you shouldn’t still be affected by what I did or said to you that’s the past, even if it’s just a few hours later or the day before. He will immediately stonewall, invalidate my feelings and opinions about how he treats me!

Over time I began to fight back, screaming, crying, praying, fasting & played my Bible app sometimes all day for years, he would come home from SUNO and say cut that off or down, even when it’s at a low level.

Whenever I revolt (stand up for myself) or disagree with him, he would gaslight me, telling me that I’m overthinking, I’m overreacting or I’m always downplaying and pouncing (picking) on him. He doesn’t take constructive feedback or criticism well at all…

He’s never in favor of or fancy accountability.

I have changed (profession) careers to please him

I have changed my wardrobe

I have changed the company I keep ( family and friends) at his request to make him comfortable

I have went to every ministry he suggested that we attend and paid tithes & offerings,

Even when the people (Leadership and Congregation) mistreated, hated me and treated me bad because of his ex-wife false accusations and slander of me.

I have donated thousands of dollars and hard community work (Nehemiah, Jeremiah and I) without seeking compensation!

I have deleted photos of me & my ex- husband (my children father) at his request

I have changed my lifestyle and religious beliefs at his request

I have denied my own desires at his request

I have lost myself and everything I once owned

please understand that my husband is a monster behind closed doors when we’re in private.

He persuaded me to rebuild a relationship with my toxic mother & daughter, that I had previously set healthy boundaries with, so I reestablished an unhealthy bond with my mother and daughter, we allowed them to use my car for a month and half, I got it back with tickets and in very bad condition. My mother friend called us and told us to come take our car from Rose because she’s selling drugs out of it, she lied about working for the homeless and feeding them under the Claiborne Corridor (In New Orleans). Kenneth only apologized,  promising to fix, my car or purchase me a new car a year has passed and I still have no reliable transportation to drive. He had given me broken promises, when he is not communicating or upset with me he leaves me with the broken car he takes the good car and Joy ride, commuting who knows where & engaging in who knows what.  He sometimes go majority of the day & returns arrogant and bossy.

He sometimes apologizes, but soon after he repeats his cycles!

I’m going through menopause and have acquired acute Anxiety and Stress, while in this marriage with him.  I have been prescribed medication by my doctor’s office.

I write these incidents with a heavy heart, suffering from severe anxiety and melancholy.

I’m writing this missive to inform you of my and Kenneth Foy toxic relationship. We are currently living together but apart (in separate rooms) and I’m now left with no choice but to obtain a restraining order to protect my business, myself, my life, and my family and kids. Kenneth has tried calling my family members to turn them against me with his semantics, when they correct his behavior he reverts and refers back to his supplier’s (ex-son-in law and his ex-wife family members).

He’s never amenable when he’s operating in this capacity. The past three years of increasing physical violence and mental violence, harassment, sexual harassment, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, isolation, controlling behavior, psychological abuse, financial abuse, and verbal abuse to me from Kenneth & his ex-wife and their family members have forced me to have no choice but to divide the relationship and our business  bonding.

I (myself) with my very own time, talents and treasures, rebuilt our businesses that his ex-wife & Kenneth has torn down (dismantled) with their torts, inflictions, actions and behaviors. We were forced to change our ministry name from New Life Ministry Baptist Church to New Beginning Ministry Incorporated (I create the new logo and name) his ex-spouse was attempting to sue our church for community property, after their divorce was finalized, Kenneth signed over their house, signed over their car even begged and pleaded with her to leave us (Kenneth & I) alone, we were forced to practically give the ministry building away to another church, because she would not stop stalking, harassing us and coming to the church creating (havoc) an uproar in front of the entire congregation, she would not stop going to our church members homes and calling everyone slandering our character’s. Kenneth ex-wife killed our reputation, church and counseling practice with vicious attacks and lies. Everyone sat back and watched this happen while coddling her behavior and saying just to pray for her. Her kids were upset with me when I began to contact the authorities and file reports concerning these incidents. She has been manipulating coercing their now 27year old daughter his daughter to come against us, the list goes on and on!  His ex son-in-law on numerous occasions has call Kenneth naive and short of intellect concerning the attacks and threats against us.

His daughter has verbally told me “fuck me” and continues to undermine and disrespect me and our marriage, she would call and disrupt our dates and family outings, text me pictures of her and her sister who have been in cahoots with their mother to destroy our relationship and marriage. I’m now taking medication for these Vicissitudes it has caused me grave trauma!

I restructured and built & rebuilt our websites and social sites! All while under attack from my husband, his family and his ex-wife.

Kenneth is relentless for apologizing for his actions and the family members behaviors.  Subsequently as soon as him and I have a discussion or disagreement he calls and tells them everything that transpired, triggering them to attack me.

Unlike my family who supports, aids, assist, undergird and purely love us both. My family has always created a safe space and place for Kenneth and I.

When I met my husband he was ministering from Facebook, we’re now on 35 platforms ministering, consulting, coaching and consulting together! We have not been able to become frugal or expand beyond our aspirations and goals, due to the increased infliction on us! And Kenneth lack of boundaries, commitment and confidence.

Kenneth has also become mentally unstable and ill, his cognitive decline is a huge factor for us and our ability to operate appropriately at the present moment, which means I have to work two times  harder and more efficiently to be effective.

I have purchased multiple over the counter medication and supplements over the years to help with his condition and symptoms, but nothing has worked or helped. I have tried counseling with my Physicians, Apostle Darryl McCoy, begged multiple spiritual leaders and churches to aid, assist and support us with and through these difficult circumstances.

Kenneth even went to counseling with him and his ex-wife counselor, (F.S.) but to no avail things have gotten worse and no one has been able to assist us, everyone just tells me to pray, as if I have not been praying and fasting already!

I’m currently in the process of redirecting all ties with Kenneth Foy, Pathway To Peace and New Beginning Ministry Incorporated. I must heal and rebuild my life from scratch (grassroots) and do shadow work for my healthcare.

As Kenneth continues on with his (relationship of triangulation) with his ex-wife son-in-law  as their relationship is and has been a constant source of tension and controversy throughout our marriage, his ex-son-in-law and his ex-wife have been very undermining, manipulating and controlling, actively and consistently keeping up relentless chaos in my marriage and relationship with Kenneth Foy, he tells his son-in-law everything that goes on and has transpired in our marriage over the past years!

Their friendship has disrupted, dismantled, divided and affected us in every aspect!

His ex-wife have attempted to sue Kenneth retirement, send police to the church during service to serve him documents for suit against him and the church. She reported him to the LPC Board in hopes of getting his license revoked, we’re paying retention fees for a settlement with them & 2 years on probationary status, she reported to the board of directors that he went to jail for a domestic dispute almost two decades ago, her complaint and vindictiveness has caused our lives, family, community, church and marriage division, distress and dissolution. She lured, influenced and persuaded Kenneth to build a secret relationship with her behind my back in hopes of winning him back.  I kept having dreams and visions about their clandestine conversations (relationship), after multiple attempts at confronting Kenneth about communicating with his ex-wife behind my back, he confessed to it and made it seem like it was my fault that he did it and that’s why she was attacking us, we had a physical altercation which left me with visible scars!

Not withstanding his ex-spouse continues to pay family, acquaintances and friends for insight into our lives and marriage, making our relationship/marriage difficult to maintain and build! Kenneth & I have had physical and verbal alterations on multiple occasions concerning his behavior with his ex-wife and her son-in-law and daughter’s. The police have been called out to assist concerning these incidents and issues on various occasions, in Orleans Parish and St. Tammany Parish.

Not only am I afraid for my wellbeing and mental health, I don’t know what each day will hold, with Kenneth severe mood swings and financial, physical, verbal, psychological and emotional abuse and behaviors  will he flare up towards me or when they would occur!

I’m grappling with loss of appetite, hair & weight loss, lack of sleep, loss of balance and activity. I’m not allowed to use the restroom without having Kenneth being present, every time I’m in the bathroom he has to be there for something, he apologize for it many times and says he’s going to give me my space, but he doesn’t.  After multiple arguments about it he just doesn’t comply, he wakes me up out of my sleep to have sex no matter what time it is, when I’m sleeping he just sticks his penis in me, saying that honey I’m sorry I just love your vagina, I explained to him a lot about him doing this, I even told him and church leaders that I feel like I’m be raped and violated.

I’ve had to sleep in my car numerous nights & share my location with my sons.

Just to prevent me from getting violated and arguing with him about waking me up like that. If & whatever I sleep on our couch, he gets upset and tells me that he wants a divorce from me because he can’t live like that. He has to have sex in order to go to sleep peacefully! He says sex is his pacifier. Knowing that I’m going through menopause and taking medication and vitamins to sleep and be less stressed riddled with anxiety!

Might I add all of this has taken place and transpired in the presence of my sons every single time.

I know this may come as a surprise to many of you and while I would like to be available to share more, I do not have the emotional capacity to further elaborate at this time. I’m completely exhausted and exasperated by these constant challenges. I hope you understand.

Kenyatta Ruth Foy

Kenneth Foy

Written Apology By Kenneth Foy Sr.  Through Text Message To Me, Nehemiah and Jeremiah.

12/30/2024 @ 9:31AM

Good Morning Family,

I wish each of you can forgive me for my behavior. I find myself waking up this morning very ashamed and weary of my inconsistency with your mother. Have not exemplified or manifested the behavior to God and you all. For this I am very sorry, and saddened. I never meant to hurt any of you. In fact, I have grown to love each of you. Please 🙏🏽 know that I take full responsibility for allowing the enemy use me in such a matter, especially because of my respect for both of you. It is indeed my hope that you can forgive me for I am extremely sorry and saddened about this matter. Yet, there is one thing that I am sure of, the of you are great men and in the near future you become greater in the person you desire to be. As for me, I love each of you immensely and perhaps even grow to love more. Be blessed men and women of God. Be blessed!!!

Love always,

Kenneth or Dad

Corrections:

Good Morning Family,

I wish that each of you can forgive me for my behavior. I find myself waking up this morning very ashamed and weary of my inconsistency with your mother. I have not exemplified or manifested the behavior to God and you all. For this I am very sorry, and saddened. I never meant to hurt any of you. In fact, I have grown to love each of you. Please 🙏🏽 know that I take full responsibility for allowing the enemy use me in such a matter, especially because of my respect for both of you. It is indeed my hope that the both of you can forgive me for I am extremely sorry and saddened about this matter. Yet, there is one thing that I am sure of, each of you are great men and in the near future you will become even greater in the person you desire to be. As for me, I love each of you immensely and perhaps even grown to love more. Be blessed men and women of God. Be blessed!!!

Love always,

Kenneth or Dad